After I read Angela Priestley’s wishlist for working mums I couldn’t help but think more about the ways working mums use the word lucky and unintentionally derail their career.
The two most common ways I’ve noticed working mums use the word lucky are:
- Attributing their success to luck
- Stuck in the lucky trap
The lucky trap is quite the conundrum for many mums. It occurs when mums feel so lucky to have a part time role that suits their family that they forgo career and salary progression for fear of losing their highly valued flexibility.
Are you missing out on opportunities because you believe only lucky people can really have it all and get what they want?
Are you giving luck too much credit for your success?
Or are you a victim of the lucky trap?
I’m ‘lucky’ enough to have flexibility and career progression as a mum. Though it’s not luck. It’s perseverance and looking for the right opportunities at the right time for me. Last year when I pursued career progression with the willingness to forgo flexibility I ended up in a series of unsuccessful interviews. None of those roles were meant for me because something more incredible was.
Deep down I believed I could have it all – a meaningful part time career with flexibility, career and salary progression. Within 6 months of looking I found my next best career move. A role that offered flexibility with career and salary progression. A few months before I became a school mum. The timing couldn’t have been more perfect actually. I felt so lucky! But wait, no I deserved it and I earned it. It was the culmination of my skills, experience, beliefs and perseverance.
Telling yourself, or worse still – telling others, that you’re lucky to have a part time role diminishes your achievements. You’ve earned it! If you continue to think like this then over time you’ll probably talk yourself out of career and salary progression opportunities. Because deep down you believe you don’t deserve it.
Next time you’re about to use the word lucky to describe your achievements or work/life balance stop and think about whether you’re doing yourself a disservice. I get it – you actually feel lucky. How about using another word like grateful. It’s ok to appreciate what you have and the fruits of your labour without diminishing your achievements, skills and experience.
If you need help getting out of the lucky trap then find out more about the ways I can help you with your career momentum and work/life balance.