It’s been almost a year since I set one life changing goal!
It was the start of 2016 and I made the bold statement to my husband that by the time I am 35, which would be at the end of the year, I would be in a new career. I didn’t understand in what form that would be in or how I was going to make it happen, but all I knew was that I had to make it happen. A change was needed and I was the only one that could make that change.
Prior to motherhood, like most women, I was extremely ambitious and often thought about climbing the corporate ladder. I often dreamt up ideas and considered what my life would be like once I had reached the pinnacle in my career. I had no idea what that looked like. I gave absolutely no regard to how having children would impact this idea, nor did I give it much thought that things would change.
The power of making this one statement has shaped my year and my life into a year of serious action taking. I created two businesses, Running Fit Box and Be Moore Workshops both of which are driven by my passion for running and empowering others. I have felt the power of meaningful goal setting first hand this year. It is an action that of course I knew about and I had engaged in through my running but I had never taken the time to set a meaningful goal that involved big changes to my life, apart from motherhood you could say.
I’ve taking my goal setting to a new level, wherein I have connected and understood my deepest core values and I have a purpose for WHY I do things.
I have clear direction on what I want in life and how I want to shape the future for myself and my family.
So, why do people not do more of it? And why has it taken me to become a mother, to fully understand that I am in control of my life and that setting goals is one powerful way to get what you want?
Setting goals is an extremely helpful process as it will set your direction, break your plan into meaningful to do lists, encourage you to take on things perhaps you thought were only dreams but most importantly it will bring you happiness.
As Michael Hyatt reports, people who make consistent progress toward meaningful goals live happier, more satisfied lives than those who don’t.
I can tell you that I fit into this statistic! My year of working towards this life changing goal has brought me immense happiness. I still haven’t quite achieved my goal, but I have loved every moment of the path I have taken to get there.
The new skills and knowledge I have gained has been eye-opening and I constantly think that I would’ve been closed off to this had I not set this goal. I did not think I had a creative bone in my body, but my goodness the ideas and creations have been flowing like lava. I have connected with some amazing and inspiring people from all walks of life. And most importantly I feel like I have taken complete control of my life, knowing that I am making the right decisions for myself and my family.
I do strongly believe that we make decisions when the opportunity or idea presents itself. I love the analogy that Elizabeth Gilbert presents in her book Big Magic wherein the universe will present us with ideas and we at that point need to decide whether we take it and run with it or we dismiss it. I feel I have taken this analogy into my goal setting and have kept an open mind when new ideas have come my way. Making the decision to use the idea can be difficult at times, but I now make decisions quickly and back whatever decision I make. It’s amazing again how profound deciding to do something can be. My advice here is to go with your gut, if it feels right do it, if it doesn’t don’t.
To any women reading this, the path I am taking may be completely different to the one you want to take, but the principle is there and the benefits of goal setting are yours for the taking. Now that we are about to embark on a new year, it really is the perfect time to set new goals – not New Year Resolutions – New Year Intentions.
Start your planning now for 2017 – make this the year that you set a meaningful goal to pursue your greatest dreams and desires. And for any mothers out there feeling that this will be a selfish course of action, let me introduce you to the word Selfist, courtesy of Dominique Bertolucci of the Happiness Code. It simply means that you will pursue your own needs and desires without being disrespectful of others. Basically, it means that you chase what you want for you, without putting everyone else last. You can do it!
All the Best for a Goal Smashing Year ahead.
Natalie Moore is a Melbourne mum to an active 2 year old, a wife, a keen runner and a serious challenge seeker. Natalie has recently founded two new businesses – Running Fit Box and Be Moore Workshops both of which aim to motivate and encourage a healthy, mindful and active lifestyle.